“… Just saying what’s on my mind”

Life has taught me something “Just because someone doesn’t like you, or someone thinks you’re wrong, doesn’t mean that you have done anything wrong.  People’s opinions are based on their own experiences in the world.”

Just the other day, i was told i was Proud and other things (that i can not disclose) and honestly, it kept me thinking.

I like to say I am a reformed people pleaser.  One of my goals in life used to be making sure everyone liked me.  I worked hard at it and I was good at it.  The problem was no matter how hard I worked or what I did, there was always someone who wasn’t happy with something I had or had not done.  I finally realized that my job as a people pleaser was not generating the result I wanted.  I was miserable!  I was spending a lot of time doing things I didn’t want to do.  I had little time to dedicate to things that were important to me because I was dedicating all my time to pleasing others.  I started to feel like I was losing any sense of who I really was.  It was then that I said to myself “something has to change”.  It was time to find my voice, to create a life that actually felt good to me. 

Fast forward a few years and I haved settled into a good life.  But suddenly I find myself once again too concerned with what other people think about me.  İ told my friend, Paschal and he said “When someone says something about you, put it through your filter and see if there is any value to it. And no matter what the answer is, you should not let it threaten your self-worth.

I never want to go back to the days where I so desperately wanted and needed validation from others.  I also don’t want to negate all the feedback(ie. What people say about me) as irrelevant.  I get to look at it and determine if it is helpful. I pause and remind myself that other people’s opinions are just that, their opinion.  And they are entitled to their opinion; it isn’t my job to change it. 

İ am entitled to my own opinion.

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kvngmandy

All the darkness in the world can not extinguish the light of a single candle. 🌌

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